legally blonde non-coincidence

TGIM! To keep this Monday Motivation train zipping along on a gray day, I thought I would share a non-coincidence with you that, at least to me, speaks to the power of positive energy.

You might be wondering what a non-coincidence is. Excellent question. A non-coincidence is an example of awesomeness in the universe I wrote about in Something Like Fate. I was writing about the concept of fate and to what degree we are the architects of our own destiny. And about other fascinating things we can’t explain. Like this one time when I had a dream about two people I had not spoken to in years, and the next day they both called me. Or how I was taking a subway line I never take at a time of day I never ride the subway and looked up from my book at this one stop for some reason…and a friend I hadn’t seen in forever got on who didn’t even live here. These are non-coincidences. Why do I call them that? One of the quotes I included in Something Like Fate is by David Life: If you believe in coincidence, you aren’t paying attention.

Do I think everything happens for a reason? I do. Do I think that if you live your life in positive energy and work toward your goals with determination and dedication, everything will unfold as it should? No doubt. And do I think that non-coincidences can enrich our lives if we are paying attention? Absolutely.

Here’s a recent example of a fun non-coincidence. I have this DVD of Legally Blonde. When I first got it over ten years ago, it played like a DVD should. No problems at all. Then one day, it stopped playing. Just gave up and called it quits. Given how much I enjoy that movie, I was understandably a bit devastated. I thought about mailing it to the manufacturer to request an exchange. Or just going out and buying a new one. But something kept stopping me. Every time I was like, “I am going to send Legally Blonde back today!” I never did. Which is really unlike me. When I say I am going to do something, I freaking do it. I can’t explain why I held onto this busted DVD.

Legally Blonde

So my Legally Blonde DVD would not play for years. Years, people. At least five, probably more like seven. I tried to get it to play so many times, hoping each time would be different and it would magically play despite the ever increasing evidence to the contrary.

Of course it never played.

Then it was May 11, 2016. I had recently turned Fabulous at 43. And I woke up that morning determined to make some changes. Things I had been working on for years suddenly were DONE. I was done entertaining negative energy in my life. All negative energy had to go, as I was a positive energy only zone. I decided in that moment that my word for Fab at 43 would be STRONG. I called my crazy busy doctor who I could never get on the phone and insisted on speaking to her directly after several attempted distractions by her intimidating staff, who usually wore me down so much I gave up trying. I spoke to her, then found a new doctor because no patient should be treated like that. I threw down a schedule that would protect my workout time. I shimmered in my Knowing that the new book I was working on chose me to write it. Positive energy was abundant…and powerful.

It was the perfect time to try playing Legally Blonde again.

But this time, I made an executive decision. If it didn’t play (as it hadn’t for the past 32 times I tried over 5+ years), I would toss it and order a new one. That was it. I was DONE.

Guess what happened?

The DVD played.

To me, this non-coincidence reinforced the power of positive energy. I believe that our energy not only affects other people, but also affects every living thing. And even, in mysterious ways, inanimate objects. I know how wild that sounds. But I’ve seen enough evidence in my lifetime to know that the energy we radiate can change the entire world. Including everything in it.

Whatever you want to achieve, whomever you want to become, whichever path you choose to follow, remember this: Positive energy is the key to creating your dream life. This was just a fun non-coincidence I shared, but positive energy is a catalyst for epic non-coincidences on a much larger scale that can change your entire life.

Embrace the power of positive energy. Then go out there and get your DVD to play.

top five, good vibes edition

Yay for cooler summer breeze! Here in New York, it has been so hot and humid and rainy under this heat dome that the past two weeks haven’t been the most exciting outdoor times. But now the good vibes of summer are back with the return of sunshine and highs in the low 80s. Even more good vibes: This Saturday, August 6 I will be at the Read Up book festival in Greenville, SC. It should be a total blast. Hope to see those of you in the area there!

1. Those of you who have been reading this blog for a while know that I am addicted to summer fruit. All the berries, melons, cherries…these are the days. So it makes sense that my refrigerator also LOVES summer. Especially since I am a vegetarian. I’ve been a vegetarian since college, for over 20 years, and it’s all about the fresh fruits and vegetables. That is why I ate an entire watermelon last week. A really big one. By myself. Addiction is a powerful thing.

Summer refrigerator

Oh how I wish my refrigerator could look like this all the time. Which just makes me enjoy this time with my fresh summer forage even more.

2. I have so much love for my readers I can’t even contain myself. But there is a special place in my heart for my boy readers. When Jenefer tweeted a photo of her student reading Something Like Fate, which was his choice bookstore purchase, it was one of the best warm fuzzies ever.

Something Like Fate summer reading

Summer reading feels!

3. Mr. Rogers was probably my earliest mentor. I remember watching him when I was little, like 3 or 4, and feeling like he was talking directly to me. I even ran over to my Gramp one time when I swore Mr. Rogers said my name to tell him that Mr. Rogers was saying hello to me! You know how I have this whole friendly neighbors thing? Well Mr. Rogers was the OFN (Original Friendly Neighbor). So naturally I am geeking out over this PBS Mr. Rogers remix.

There is also a Bob Ross remix, for all the “happy little trees” enthusiasts out there.

4. In other good vibes news, Apple is replacing their pistol emoji with a green water gun. And they are adding a pride flag. More reasons to love Shiny Happy Apple World.

5. My mantra for this week:

I choose to be happy

Choose happiness. Choose kindness. Choose love.❤

NOH8

The first thing I listen for when my alarm goes off to NPR in the morning is if there was another shooting.

This is how I wake up now. Hoping that no one else was killed.

But there are places on this planet where mass shootings aren’t even news. Places where people live in fear of their lives and the lives of their loved ones every single day. Places where you are afraid to leave your home. Where simply being who you are, openly and proudly, means risking your life.

If the human race is to continue, we cannot go on like this. And PS? There is only ONE race. The human race. We are all connected. Regardless of skin pigmentation, sexual orientation, or any other component of our DNA. The human race will become extinct if we continue to kill each other like this. Considering the entirety of the Earth’s existence, humans arrived quite recently. We are new to this planet and we have already overstayed our welcome.

The hate thing? Has to stop.

Matt Huntington and Susane Colasanti, NOH8 2016

I posed for this photo with my fiance for the NOH8 Campaign as a way of taking a stand against hate. NOH8 promotes love, acceptance, and respect for all human beings worldwide. I am speaking out for the 49 victims of the Orlando shooting, for Tyler Clementi, for Matthew Shepard, and for every other innocent human being who was discriminated against to the point of being murdered. Hate is a lethal virus. What is the antidote?

We have the capacity for kindness. We are able to make good choices. Our thoughts, words, and actions are all choices we make every day. Let them be positive ones.

We must choose kindness.

We must choose love.

We must accept that we are all one race. And that all love is love.

Be who you are. Love who you want. Live and let live.

help wanted – positive energy

TGIM, friendly neighbors! Happy shiny new summer week. I have a very good feeling that fabulous things will be happening for us this week. And I will be eating a ridiculous amount of berries and melons in celebration of the fact that I can. So lots to anticipate.

I have made an executive decision to move my Help Wanted advice videos to Facebook Mentions Live, then post them on YouTube after. I love the energy of a live stream, getting to interact with your comments, reaching out to you in real time. Help Wanted 4 was live on my Facebook yesterday. Now you can watch it on my YouTube.


Help Wanted 4 is all about positive energy. Specifically, how positive energy can protect you from haters. I know how hard it is to not care what other people think. To ignore nasty comments. To block out insults. And to survive being bullied. The thing is, haters hate because of their unresolved issues, not because of you. Happy people don’t feel the need to be hateful. Happy people are happy for others. They enjoy spreading the love.

Haters gonna hate, but you can choose not to react.

Positive energy brings so much goodness into your life and the lives of those around you. When you radiate positive energy, you attract positive energy, which is how you find your people. Your people are your team. Choose to surround yourself with positive people to build a strong team. Because love is a battlefield, but so is all of life.

Avoiding negative people as much as possible will reduce stress and increase happiness. Negative energy is toxic. It can actually make you sick. Positive people are the ones you feel good around. When you are with positive people, it feels like you can be exactly who you are, like you say anything and you know they will support you. Those are the people you want to be around as much as you can.

Wouldn’t it be awesome if we could choose who to interact with at school or work? Like we could just say, “Yeah, no, I’m not feeling anyone negative, so don’t even try interacting with me,” and they would leave us alone? What do you do when you are stuck with haters throwing shade at you? Keep in mind that it’s not about you. Your success or good news or achievements, or even if you’re working towards turning your big dreams into reality, shines a spotlight on their insecurities. It’s like your achievement is a trigger reminding them of the things they haven’t achieved but want to. Which makes them angry. Then they take that anger out on you. Don’t let them bring you down. Don’t let them make you cynical or bitter. Keep generating positive energy. Positive energy is the key to healthy relationships, achieving your goals, and finding true inner happiness.

No matter what, remember that you are important. You are loved. You have a purpose. You have the power to make this world a better place every single day.

Shine on, everyone. Shine on.

diya warm fuzzies

Do you love Sadie’s warm fuzzies from the City Love trilogy? Do you want to make some for your friends? You can totally learn how from this Epic Reads DIYA video!


This is so cute I can’t even. If there’s anything better than a warm fuzzy it’s a bunch of warm fuzzies in a jar. With glitter, of course.

Here’s to spreading the city love!❤

where the light is

Happy summer solstice week! Oh yes. Summer rolling in deserves a longer celebration than just one day. The first day of summer is a reason to celebrate all. freaking. week.

I love all things summer so much I can’t even. Flip-flops. Happy sunshine. Lots of green outside. Longtime readers of this blog know that I am addicted to summer fruit. Raspberries, blueberries, strawberries, blackberries, cherries, watermelon, cantaloupe, honeydew, peaches, plums, nectarines…summer fruit is my bliss. I seriously could eat summer fruit every day and never get tired of it. So I will be celebrating with lots of fresh, colorful fruit this summer!

Another reason to celebrate summer is that, although daylight time did start decreasing by about two minutes per day the day after the summer solstice (which was on June 20 this year, but could fall on either June 20, 21, 0r 22), there are early sunrise times and late sunset times pretty much all summer. Which is fabulous for people like me who are not feeling sunset anytime before 7pm. Summer makes it easy to keep us where the light is.

This warm fuzzy from Elle Luna is all about following your passion, allowing the light in your heart to shine brightly and guide your way towards creating your dream life.

Elle Luna - choose must

There is so much truth in this. No matter what your big dream is, visualizing your goal and then taking steps every day towards achieving it is a recipe for success. There will be pain along the way. There will be tears and frustration and anger and several meltdowns. But if you never give up, if failure is not an option, you will achieve your goal. Your manifested goal might not look the way you thought it would exactly. Or it might be so similar you will be in awe for the rest of your life. You won’t know how your dream turned reality will look until you begin.

Elle Luna - your purpose

Be what you are. Starting now.

Wishing you the best. summer. ever.❤