the wanting

I’m happy to report that Sex and the City 2 was much better than its ridiculous trailer. The trailer is so superficial it almost justifies SP’s ignorant belief (I said it! I said it on my blog!) that the show is all about women who hate men and only care about shoes. I’m like, Hi, have we met? Do you really think I’d like a show remotely like that? I don’t even wear heels! Duh, there has to be more there. I guess straight guys don’t get the heart and depth of the show. Anyway, the first movie was much better, but I’d watch SATC2 again (fast-forwarding through the parts that were trying too hard). If they’re going to do a SATC3, I really, really hope that they keep it real in New York City. New York is such a big character and it only made brief appearances. Time to bring it on home, ladies!

The only part of the glitz fest trailer I liked was when Carrie sees Aidan. Why? Because we love Aidan. We loved Aidan and Carrie together, even though she needed more sparkle (and, let’s face it, he needed more domesticity). Any fan of the show will never forget this scene:

Carrie Bradshaw and Aidan Shaw

If Carrie and Big are soul mates, then why was this scene so hard to watch? Carrie spent six years running around New York, searching and trying to get Big to realize that they belong together. And now she has him. They’re married. So why is she still not satisfied?

Part of it has to do with her love of going out. She was a party girl for years. That craving doesn’t suddenly disappear. Part of it has to do with the inevitable fizzle. Carrie and Big had the zsa zsa zsu. Some of that sparkle will always be there. But passion fades. That’s basic biology. I think a lot of her restlessness has to do with the whole Grass Is Greener phenomenon, the feeling that no matter what you have and who you’re sharing your life with, things can always be better. Will she ever stop wanting what she doesn’t have and fully embrace what she does?

Another question that came up is about this whole desire women have to present a perfect picture to the world. Why is it so hard for Carrie and Charlotte to admit that they’re struggling, even to their best friends? The trailer showed Charlotte’s daughter slapping her butt with red paint instead of the way more interesting part that happens right after – Charlotte crying in the pantry, too overwhelmed to go out there again. But she keeps insisting that everything’s fine. Or when Aidan and Carrie are talking and he says how great things are going for him. We soon see that they can’t possibly be. Why is pretending we’re okay when we’re not preferable to honesty?

Carrie finally has what she’d been wanting for so long. But will it ever be enough?

4 thoughts on “the wanting

  1. I’m a Big lover all the way, but Aidan. AIDAN!? That man is near perfect.
    I need to see this movie. But, is it really two and a half hours long? Sounds a little strenuous.

    • Oh, the time flies! It’s a fun movie, despite the over-the-top parts (a particularly disturbing one involves karaoke). You heart Carrie, therefore you must see this. Def let me know what you think of it.

  2. Bwhahaha! I’m amused. Did he sit down and watch the show with you from the beginning for awhile, and does he still think that after watching? Lots of shows have reps that aren’t totally deserved.
    You make a good point about Aiden needing more domesticity and Carrie needing more sparkle. If not for that, I think they could have worked out almost better than her and Big. Big does give her more sparkle (usually!). But I feel like in real life, he wouldn’t have mellowed to the point that he did in the movie – my guess is that he’d still do more flirting and she’s still feel worried about him cheating on her, even if they had a good relationship. He’s just that kind of guy. In the movie, they’re able to smooth those parts of him over and make their relationship a positive one.
    Did you think Aiden was lying when he said things were going great for him? I wasn’t sure. I thought maybe things *were* going great, but that didn’t mean he didn’t still miss Carrie when he saw her. Carrie loves Big, but she still wanted to kiss Aiden. It’s fun to hear other people’s interpretations!

    • SP hasn’t even seen one ep. He’s only seen bits and pieces of a few. So yeah, he has no idea what he’s talking about 😉
      My impression is that Aiden is a family man. I can’t imagine Carrie with three sons by now, or ever. She hates staying in every night and Aiden is a homebody. He’s a great guy, just not the right person for Carrie. Also, when Aiden is saying how great things are for him, he has a familiar strained inflection and expression on his face that I’ve seen many people have when they’re pretending that everything is fine. It’s kind of like this forced optimism. I think things are okay for the most part, but clearly Aiden misses some of that sparkle himself. We all do after a while.

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