the wanting

I’m happy to report that Sex and the City 2 was much better than its ridiculous trailer. The trailer is so superficial it almost justifies SP’s ignorant belief (I said it! I said it on my blog!) that the show is all about women who hate men and only care about shoes. I’m like, Hi, have we met? Do you really think I’d like a show remotely like that? I don’t even wear heels! Duh, there has to be more there. I guess straight guys don’t get the heart and depth of the show. Anyway, the first movie was much better, but I’d watch SATC2 again (fast-forwarding through the parts that were trying too hard). If they’re going to do a SATC3, I really, really hope that they keep it real in New York City. New York is such a big character and it only made brief appearances. Time to bring it on home, ladies!

The only part of the glitz fest trailer I liked was when Carrie sees Aidan. Why? Because we love Aidan. We loved Aidan and Carrie together, even though she needed more sparkle (and, let’s face it, he needed more domesticity). Any fan of the show will never forget this scene:

Carrie Bradshaw and Aidan Shaw

If Carrie and Big are soul mates, then why was this scene so hard to watch? Carrie spent six years running around New York, searching and trying to get Big to realize that they belong together. And now she has him. They’re married. So why is she still not satisfied?

Part of it has to do with her love of going out. She was a party girl for years. That craving doesn’t suddenly disappear. Part of it has to do with the inevitable fizzle. Carrie and Big had the zsa zsa zsu. Some of that sparkle will always be there. But passion fades. That’s basic biology. I think a lot of her restlessness has to do with the whole Grass Is Greener phenomenon, the feeling that no matter what you have and who you’re sharing your life with, things can always be better. Will she ever stop wanting what she doesn’t have and fully embrace what she does?

Another question that came up is about this whole desire women have to present a perfect picture to the world. Why is it so hard for Carrie and Charlotte to admit that they’re struggling, even to their best friends? The trailer showed Charlotte’s daughter slapping her butt with red paint instead of the way more interesting part that happens right after – Charlotte crying in the pantry, too overwhelmed to go out there again. But she keeps insisting that everything’s fine. Or when Aidan and Carrie are talking and he says how great things are going for him. We soon see that they can’t possibly be. Why is pretending we’re okay when we’re not preferable to honesty?

Carrie finally has what she’d been wanting for so long. But will it ever be enough?